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Home » Living in Argentina

Because Cooking’s Like Love

Published: Nov 27, 2012 by Felicia Lim · This post may contain affiliate links

Yes, cooking’s exactly like love, a process which binds us and ties us, and molds us into the people we aspire to be. For that I give thanks.

Over the weekend, I finished a book by my favorite blogger, Shanna Mallon author of the blog Food Loves Writing, titled “Written Together: A Story of Beginnings In the Kitchen & Beyond”.

Written Together, by Shanna Mallon

A short book with less than 80 pages, its simple clarity and honest declarations had me resonating with many of its themes and topics that Shanna touched on.

A memoir detailing the unfolding of a relationship with her husband, whom she had incidentally met via their blogs, Shanna describes how their story unraveled with the most beautiful and down-to-earth anecdotes,  and many parts of the book have touched me to tears. The respect, love and care her husband Tim demonstrated throughout their courtship is what many women dream of, and what most men should aspire to give (in my opinion of course).

Their fresh, sweet relationship was cultivated through Skype, long-distance phone calls, and faith in the other, with each being three states away, and as I read through the book, I was constantly reminded of the long-distance relationship that Juan and I had for two years before I moved to Buenos Aires so we could live in the same continent and country and time zone.

cornbread in a cast iron skillet
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The book’s first chapter opens with the title “Because Cooking’s Like Love”, and ends with a paragraph that very concisely sums up the gist of the book.

Because Cooking’s Like Love

“Cooking’s like love. Because while love is romance and dating and having someone’s hand to hold on a long summer’s night, love is also first emails and months of long-distance phone calls and seeing yourself with new eyes as you pick up your life and move into a new one. Love and cooking are not just the dinner everyone gathers around or the wedding that brings in friends from out of town. They’re the process – the spilled cakes and the broken hearts and the late-night fights on the sofa. You can want to cook because you want to eat, but you will love to cook also because of what it gives you along the way: the smell of tomatoes cooking down with red wine, the sound of butter sizzling in a pan, the way your hands remember how to mince a garlic clove, super fine, like they’ve done since the early days, when everything was new.”

Isn’t it so true? Doesn’t the paragraph ring in your heart and hold it tight, as it did to mine?

I was reminded of what love really is when reading the book – the offer to pray together with your partner and committing your future into the hands of God, the promises made and fulfilled, not just empty words and fluff to impress the other. The little acts of kindness and patience that is evident in everyday life, not just on birthdays or special occasions.

And then, I naturally think of Juan, and how he makes me happy through small gestures and thoughtfulness, through only saying something when he really means it, and through his very truthful answers and questions, to express the things which bother him, instead of taking to fights and arguments.

Juan & I soaking up the Sunday afternoon sun

I think of our relationship when we were still physically in different continents – how we would time our schedules and wake up earlier or head to bed later in order to be able to Skype with each other, and how sometimes we would miss each other so much that a 2-D image on a computer was so lacking, but the very best we could hope for. And how we would only be able to see each other every 5 months, because the journey was so far and expensive. I remember the times Skype would hang halfway during our conversations, and sometimes during our arguments, and the frustration that would overwhelm us seemed impossible to overcome.  And the times when we wondered if it was possible to continue a relationship so tough, and whether it was worth it for one of us to move to be with the other.

You are my sunshine!

It was when I was briefly in India that we decided we had to do something about the distance. And in a very bold and crazy move based solely on faith and the hope that things would work out, I jumped across continents to settle in a land at least 30 hours by plane from Singapore, and prayed so hard things would be worth it.

As it turned out, sometimes all you need is a little faith, and things will take care of themselves.

I’m not saying there aren’t times that I miss my family and friends in Singapore, or wish that I was able to see them more often. There are of course many occasions of homesickness, and I’ve spent days wondering if what I did was right, but I’m always reminded of why we fought for what we believed in, and that it was definitely worth it.

Juan shows me love and respect, not just in presents or nice words, but also in small thoughtful actions. He supports my desire to write by telling his colleagues very proudly about the blog I have, and speaks words of encouragement that are necessary in times of sadness and difficulty. He listens to me, and thinks about what I say, an act very tough to do in a world where everyone enjoys giving their opinion more than taking others’. When we argue or fight and get bitter, he reminds me to tell him what I feel, because communication is the most important element. And though it may sometimes cost me to speak my mind, I do, because he is worth it.

It’s the constant reminder that even if there may be stormy days or grey or rainy days, most days will still be filled with sunshine and blue skies.

Perfect Spring Day in Buenos Aires

Life is beautiful!

It’s my birthday today and yesterday he made me my birthday cake from scratch– with the right recipe but unfortunately the wrong type of flour. (He had used normal flour instead of self-raising flour, and the cake turned out a little too dense, but still definitely edible!). But it is the thought that counts, and that’s why I love him for it.

Juan preparing my birthday cake

The Classic Pound Cake, which was one of the first cakes I’d ever baked, is still one of my favorites, and the recipe can be found here. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do!

And so, just like cooking, love isn’t just about the pretty photographs which capture our smiles and happy faces, it’s also the tough discussions, long arguments, kindness towards each other and learning to forgive and accept. It’s the act of bringing the right ingredients together, stirring them to form batter and then carefully transferring them to a pan for baking, at the right temperature, for the right amount of time. It’s testing and trying a recipe over and over until you come up with the best amount of each ingredients, and a continuous improvement to make the dish better. In the same way, relationships always have to get better, because if they grow stagnant, they become dull and neglected, and spoil as the days go by.

There’s no perfect way to do things, neither in cooking nor in love, its the effort and the desire to better yourself that’s the key…so love and cook..always!

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About Felicia

Hey you! I’m Felicia, a Singaporean girl who moved to Buenos Aires for love. A couple of things about me: I love food, writing and food photography. I wrote a grain-free ecookbook that I know you’ll love and I also do freelance writing and photography if you want to work with me. Follow me on this blog as I navigate the world of cooking gluten-free, dairy-free and egg-free.

Did you make a recipe? Tag @felicialimhz on Instagram. I love to see what you cook!

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Comments

  1. Reuben says

    November 29, 2012 at 10:39 pm

    Happy belated birthday Felicia !

    Love the article that you wrote, it really struck a chord with me.

    Please carry on the great work and thanks for sharing us !

    Reuben
    Singapore

    Reply
    • rosewithoutthorns says

      November 29, 2012 at 10:48 pm

      Hi Reuben…
      is it Reuben Tan? If it is, How have you been???
      thanks for your lovely comments 🙂

      take care!
      felicia

      Reply
  2. shras789 says

    November 29, 2012 at 12:01 am

    I love your blog, you have some great things on here, and I am always looking for new recipes, can I use some for cooking.

    Reply
    • rosewithoutthorns says

      November 29, 2012 at 12:14 am

      Hi shras!

      thank you for the lovely comment! I’m glad you find my blog useful!

      enjoy your week!

      felicia

      Reply
      • shras789 says

        November 29, 2012 at 12:15 am

        Oh your welcome, Felicia. And Thank you, I am glad you like my blog. It is different but it is truth you know

        Reply
  3. gracelimsaifong says

    November 28, 2012 at 12:08 pm

    Wow wow wow! I am so proud of you, Darling! – Your writing has always been a great source of encouragement and offers many hours of happy reading. I am so touch by your honest and candid expression of your love journey with Juan. It was so sweet of Juan to bake you your birthday cake on your birthday. We love you and miss you in SG and are all looking forward to seeing you back in Feb 2012. Counting the days to your home-coming ::0)

    Reply
    • rosewithoutthorns says

      November 28, 2012 at 5:11 pm

      Thank you for your support mummy! Hopefully one day I will get somewhere with my writing! Looking forward to going back home in Feb too!! love you!

      Reply
  4. silverlinedletters says

    November 28, 2012 at 10:30 am

    wowww flea 🙂 i’m so proud of you and so happy for you!

    thank you for sharing your thoughts in this beautifully honest post. many parts resonated w me – how every r/s takes effort and if you ignore it it grows stagnant; and how it’s the little things that tell you so much for they offer a glimpse of the depths of one’s generous love.

    i hope you had a beautiful birthday that’s as special as you are 🙂

    te queiro! can’t wait to see you in person this january!

    Reply
    • rosewithoutthorns says

      November 28, 2012 at 10:36 am

      Hello dear!!

      thanks for you words and thanks for being proud of me! I had a nice birthday, am going out for dinner with some friends tonight to celebrate as well. But definitely miss celebrating my birthday with you and other friends in SG…

      I wont be back in January – only arriving in Feb! can’t wait to see you then! Skype me when you can! I miss having calls from you! Missed hearing your voice on my birthday!

      take care!
      flea

      Reply
  5. Jess Gonzalez | Feast With Me says

    November 27, 2012 at 11:40 pm

    Beautiful Post Felicia. So many parts I loved and I felt a connection to. First off, Happy Birthday! Second, I am absolutely bookmarking that book – it sounds right up my alley. And finally, I am so amazed by the strength of your relationship with Juan. I had to do 3 months in a 20 hour distance from my boyfriend, and I remember those Skype dates, the freezing, the utter frustration at being so close yet so far away. But now we are together and I know it was all worth it. And love is like that, you fight through the tough times and remember the good ones, and you stick with it, because without it, life is so much less fun.

    Absolutely inspiring – Bravo.

    Reply
    • rosewithoutthorns says

      November 28, 2012 at 12:06 am

      Thank you for the bday wishes Jess!

      I think anyone who has been through a long-distance relationship (no matter how long or short a time) will be able to attest to the fact that distance is always distance. And whether its a 5 hour ride away or a 30 hour flight away, the effort is the same and in a way, if you make it through the distance, you make it.

      I’m glad you and your bf fought for love as well! and that it was all worth it!

      Yes, do get the book – its a short book but definitely has so many things worth holding on to!

      stay blessed!
      felicia

      Reply
  6. Sara says

    November 27, 2012 at 11:49 pm

    Hi, I have nominated you for the Inspiring Blogger Award because I think you deserve a little something for making your blog always look fab! To share this little bit of blogging kindness: 1. Display the award image on your blog. 2. Link back to the person who nominated you. 3. State 7 things about yourself. 4. Nominate 15 other bloggers and link to their sites. 5. Notify the bloggers that they have been nominated and link to the post. Thank you for all your great posts and congratulations!
    http://blogdeliciously.wordpress.com/2012/11/27/inspiring-blogger-award-2/

    Reply
    • rosewithoutthorns says

      November 28, 2012 at 12:08 am

      Thank you for the nomination Sara! And congrats on your nomination as well!

      Have a great week!

      felicia

      Reply
  7. charmedbylove says

    November 27, 2012 at 9:48 pm

    Happy Birthday to you! Keep the food coming!

    Reply
    • rosewithoutthorns says

      November 27, 2012 at 10:21 pm

      thank you!! 🙂 Enjoy ur day!

      Reply
  8. birgitlikes says

    November 27, 2012 at 5:17 pm

    Happy Birthday, Felicia! I wish you all the best for the next year. May it be filled with love (though I do not worry about that after reading this wonderful post), laughter, health and lots of great recipes! All the best!

    Reply
    • rosewithoutthorns says

      November 27, 2012 at 5:20 pm

      Thank you for your birthday wishes Birgit!

      I’m looking forward to a beautiful and amazing year ahead!

      I hope you’re well too!

      Reply
  9. shanna mallon says

    November 27, 2012 at 3:22 pm

    Oh, my. Happy birthday! Thank you so much for your sweet words here. I am touched by what you wrote. You and Juan make a beautiful couple — hope you enjoy a wonderful birthday together today! : )

    Reply
    • rosewithoutthorns says

      November 27, 2012 at 3:28 pm

      Shanna!

      What an incredible honor for you to visit my blog! and thank you for your sweet words and the wonderful book that you and Tim wrote together!

      I enjoyed your book so much I’m almost finished with reading it a second time! And your writing is beautiful – what a great joy to read your posts and honest thoughts!

      I hope you know how inspiring you and Tim are – an example of determined love and kindness!

      Have a beautiful week!!

      Love from Buenos Aires,
      Felicia

      Reply

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