“She was struck by the simple truth that sometimes the most ordinary things could be made extraordinary, simply by doing them with the right people…”
― Nicholas Sparks, The Lucky One
A conversation with a close friend in Argentina, Agustina, struck in a chord in my heart, and it occurred to me that the reason why friendships last despite the distance, time or cultural barriers, is because there is a mutual interest in the other’s life and affairs. Interest as in genuine concern of course, not gossipy nosiness.
I believe that what most people (if not all) seek for ultimately is companionship – whether it is the company of a sibling, a parent, a friend or a lover. That because we humans are a sociable species, there is a constant craving to be accompanied, and to be company.
And for every relationship or friendship to last, we have to always maintain our interest in the other person, and vice versa.
Even if it means doing things you don’t love just so you can accompany the other, or maybe just taking five minutes to ask about the other person’s day because you are genuinely interested, even though we are innately configured to prefer talking about our own problems and issues.
This is why we seek for friends who have the ability to make your life a part of theirs, and why we search for partners and loved ones who make the extra effort to inquire if you are fine, if you need someone to talk to, if you would like to drop by, even if it was for just an hour.
Just like the quote at the beginning states, “sometimes the most ordinary things could be made extraordinary, simply by doing them with the right people“.
One of the sweetest things I’ve witnessed is when an old couple still holds hands, because their love has been developed and moulded alongside years of companionship.
This is precisely why I am so grateful that Juan takes the effort to accompany me on random photography walks even though he sometimes gets bored, as I desperately seek to better my photography skills.
(According to Juan, my new Canon DSLR has already been depreciated by all the usage I’ve put into it in the past two months, so you get the drift.)
I adore that he holds my hand while I weep ridiculously during romantic films, my tears falling over his hands like a dripping tap.
And that he laughs at my fear of dogs, even though it’s something he cannot fathom, because he very much would like to get one.
I love that we both find tremendous comfort and pleasure in sitting at a peaceful cafe with nothing but uninterrupted silence and a solid book (or kindle).
I smile silently when he accompanies me to scour an entire mega department store for the most insane items, like a piece of wood (to use as a prop for photos), or a pasta making machine (I know, I have weird shopping interests).
And more recently, I’m amazed when he suggests that we cook at home together.
You see, cooking isn’t exactly a strong interest of his; like most men I know, he’d very much prefer the eating end of the deal. But recently, I suppose my interest in cooking has rubbed off a little on him. I absolutely find it so cool when you cook with your partner – it’s just like sharing a meal, but even better, because both of you end up appreciating the food so much more.
The last time we cooked together, we made one of the most delicious and easiest side dishes I know, with one of the cheapest ingredients possible – potatoes.
Roughly cut potato wedges sprinkled with dried rosemary and tossed together with sliced onions.
Roasted till a beautiful golden brown, crispy on the edges and bursting with flavor.
ROASTED ROSEMARY POTATO WEDGES & ONIONS
1) 5 large potatoes
2) 2-3 tablespoons of dried rosemary
3) 2 large onions
4) salt & pepper to taste
1) Wash and cut potatoes roughly in wedges and slice onions into thin strips
2) Pre-heat oven to 200 deg cel
3) In a baking tray, pour enough oil to cover the surface, and heat for 5 minutes
4) Arrange potato wedges and onions slices in the tray over oil, and sprinkle dried rosemary over them.
5) Roast in oven for the next 1 hour 15 minutes, or until the wedges are crispy on the edges
Wash and cut potatoes roughly in wedges:
Arrange potato wedges and sliced onions in the tray over oil, and sprinkle dried rosemary over them:
Roast in oven for the next 1 hour 15 minutes, or until the wedges are crispy on the edges: